I’m not sure exactly when the tipping point was, when boudoir wedding photos became popular. I felt like one day I woke up, and the lingerie-related wedding photos on Pinterest weren’t just Victoria Secret models anymore – they were regular, every day brides-to-be that were brave enough to strip down to their skivvies and shoot intimate, secret photos for their groom.
I’m definitely not a prude, and I certainly don’t discourage boudoir photos for any bride who wants them – to each their own! Hell, I admire the gutsy women who have opted to strip down for boudoir. I totally get how it might even feel totally awesome and empowering. The irony here is, however, is that these “secret” photos are obviously no longer discreet once they got published to the greater world wide web. So I feel like I have to say this out loud and have a conversation about it: the amount of bridal boudoir photos I’ve been seeing online recently kind of weirds me out.
Am I the only one that feels this way? Maybe I’m totally mistaken, and the boudoir photos splashed all over Pinterest are actually models who are helping photographers showcase their talent and abilities. But if the boudoir photos are really just normal brides giving their grooms a sexy glimpse before the wedding, then I feel like I’m intruding. And in a way, by seeing the boudoir photos, I feel like I’m somehow de-valuing the intimacy and secretive aspect of the photo – you know, the reason why you take it off to take the photos in the first place. (And don’t even get me started on couples boudoir. I don’t think I need to explain why that’s awkward…right?)
Maybe one day when I’m closer to marriage, I’ll consider whether or not I want to have boudoir photos taken for whoever I end up with. But sorry, internet; you’re not invited. In fact, no one’s invited…except for the intended viewer (and the photographer, of course). I won’t even show them off if the pictures turn out totally awesome and I’m proud of the way I look – because then, it’s not really meaningful. And wasn’t that the point, after all?
What do you think readers – am I being weird about this, and bridal boudoir is all fun and games? Have you had boudoir photos taken, or are planning on it? Would you share them with anyone other than your fiance?
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