9 old fashioned wedding traditions to break on the big day

white wedding dress

Jose Villa Photography

Wedding traditions, they are aplenty, no? I think it’s high time for these unwritten wedding rules to be broken and I’m here to tell you that if a particular wedding tradition doesn’t fit your style, you don’t have to do it! Your wedding day is just that, yours. I’m a firm believer that you will appreciate the day more knowing that every detail was a true reflection of you and your partner.

With that being said, I’m giving you the OK on nine wedding traditions to break, listed below!

Tradition #1: You must have a wedding book attendant

wedding guest book

Vanessa Joy Photography

Nearly every wedding book attendant I’ve ever come across has mentioned that they felt like they were being given that position simply because the bride and groom didn’t want them to feel left out. The reality is, most of them would rather be able to kick back, relax and enjoy the show!

Come to think of it, do you really think you are going to read through the names of all the people who attended your wedding years down the road? With technology progressing the way it is and wedding hashtags becoming all the rage, my guess is no. Wedding books are just an extra expense that could be allocated toward something else that is important to you – hello, photographer!

Tradition #2: The bride and the groom must shove cake in each other’s face

white wedding cake

Katelyn James Photography

All I see is a big huge mess and a waste of cake. Anyone who knows me knows that the latter situation would be considered a tragedy! Sharing the first bite together is a much safer route and it leaves you free to eat the cake you paid good money for.

Tradition #3: You have to be married by a religious authority figure

wedding ceremony

K. Holly Photography

Times are a changing and if you want a family member or close friend to marry you, go right ahead! I personally think it makes the ceremony that must sweeter and adds a personal touch you wouldn’t otherwise get from someone you don’t know on that level.

Tradition #4: Your wedding reception playlist has to include the chicken dance and the electric slide

wedding reception dance

Raquel Reis

You don’t listen to those songs any other day of the week, why would you feel pressured to on your wedding day? Play the music that makes you happy and I can assure you, your guests won’t be watching from the sidelines!

Tradition #5: You have to register for “typical” wedding gifts, such as home goods

zurich honeymoon

Molly Zaidman

This probably won’t come as a surprise to you, but a lot of couples choose to live together well before they get married or even engaged for that matter. Do you know what that means? They’re most likely set in the kitchen department and can’t bear the thought of adding another set of towels to their collection. Weddings are expensive and gifts are meant to be indulgent. Register for things you truly want and need!

I, for one, don’t think there is anything more disappointing than knowing the gift you plucked off the registry is going to sit unused or worse off, returned. I would much rather contribute a unique wedding gift that truly brings joy to the new couple – such as a contribution to their honeymoon or that killer handbag the bride has had her eye on, but hasn’t purchased because of wedding expenses.

Tradition #6: You must have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen

bridesmaids

Trent Bailey Photography

Unless you’re a stickler for symmetry, this is one of the most common ways new brides are breaking old traditions. You want only the best of the best standing by you on your big day and if that looks like five bridesmaids and four groomsmen, so be it.

Tradition #7: You have to have a bouquet/garter toss

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Coco Tran

If the idea of your husband crawling on his hands and knees to take your garter off with his teeth gives you anxiety, you aren’t alone. I think this is one of those traditions that everyone would appreciate doing away with – isn’t that right, Grandma and Grandpa? If this isn’t really your thing, you won’t be hurting your guests’ feelings.

Tradition #8: Your guest must send you off before the reception is over

wedding send off

Amy and Stuart Photography

Why not have an all-nighter wedding partying with your closest friends and family members? You two lovebirds have the rest of your lives together, but this night only happens once and you don’t want to miss a thing!

Tradition #9: You must send out RSVP cards with invitations

wedding invite

Kurt Boomer Photo

Allowing your guests to RSVP online is not only cost effective, but it’s also hassle free for both parties! Your guests don’t have to worry about misplacing the card and you don’t have to worry about tallying them up as they come in. Sounds like a win-win if you ask me.

What wedding traditions are you planning to skip on the big day? I’d love to hear!

Jessica Zimlich

Jess Zimlich is a Kansas City based lifestyle blogger at 26 and Not Counting where you can expect to see a heavy emphasis on personal experience and life adventures. When she isn’t working on her fitness, you will most likely find her enjoying brunch (mimosas included!), catching up with her best friends or flipping the pages of her latest read – she’s old school like that. She isn’t engaged, yet, but she looks forward to the day when she can put that Pinterest Wedding Board to work!