If you follow WedPics on Facebook or Instagram (and you should!) you’ll remember that I got engaged over the Christmas holiday. My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 4 years and he blindsided me with the question at 7:30 am on Christmas morning. I’m talking full-on bedhead, wearing pajamas, unbrushed teeth, etc. It was a total surprise. But a truly awesome, unforgettable one.
I guess I can update my bio now 🙂
When people learn that I work for a wedding company they nearly always ask if I have my wedding all planned out and the answer has always been no. I’ve never been one to fantasize about my hypothetical wedding. If I’m being totally honest, the idea of planning a wedding has always seemed like such an overwhelming task that I’ve never really wanted to think about it until I’ve been forced to. But working for WedPics – and scrolling through thousands of other people’s wedding photos each week – has put me in an interesting situation for planning my own wedding. Instead of knowing what I do want for my wedding, I have a very clear idea of what I don’t want…
WHAT I DON’T WANT
- Bridesmaids. I attended 7 weddings last year and 6 the year before. My friends are exhausted of being bridesmaids. Like, 110% over it. Unconventional? Yes. But I think there’s a way to have all of my best friends involved in my wedding day without making them buy another dress and have their makeup done in a way that looks great in photos but like a clown in real life (you know what I’m talking about). P.S. I’ve already told them that they’re excused from bridal party duties and they’ve thanked me.
- A long engagement. Let’s get this show on the road. Two weeks into being engaged and I’m already getting a million questions from my mom et al. I’ll save myself the drawn-out anxiety and knock this out quickly. After all, it’s not the wedding that I’m so excited about, it’s the being-married-to-my-favorite-person part. 10 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding, right? Anyone? Anyone? *Crosses fingers*…
- Some swanky affair. I am not fancy. Not in any sense of the word. Some of the things I cherish most in this life are beer, tacos, and jean shorts. My wedding will be nice, but casual. There’s a happy medium, and that’s what I’m going for.
- Engagement photos. No thanks. They are the actual worst. You’re welcome, Brian.
THINGS THAT HAVE SURPRISED ME
- People ask about the date WAY too soon. I’ve been engaged for two days. Do you really think I have a date set?! (ok, I sort of actually did but that was kind of a fluke and I’ll assume that most people do not…)
- I HATE the word fiance. I don’t know why. I can’t bring myself to say it out loud. And I speak french! I’m just going to stick with “boyfriend” and “future husband” from now on.
- I LOVE invitations. You always read that scaling back invitations is an easy way to save money in your wedding budget. I’ve hardly ever cared about any wedding invitations I’ve received so I’ve always assumed that I wouldn’t put too much thought into my own… BUT I DO CARE! I’m a sucker for good design and now I’m obsessed with the idea of a completely custom invitation full of personal details. It helps that I have an amazing graphic designer friend who is helping me create one of the coolest wedding invitation suites you’ve ever seen. More on that later…
- Ring reactions. Every. damn. person. who learns that you’re engaged will ask to see your ring. Even strangers. My future husband completely surprised me with a modest, trillion cut emerald set in rose gold. It is perfect. For me. But people are so surprised when they don’t see a traditional diamond that they sometimes have odd reactions. Relax, people. If your response isn’t “it’s beautiful” then you’re doing it wrong.
- I dove in headfirst. And it hasn’t been bad. Maybe it’s because I’m constantly reminded of weddings via work or because I know I only have 10 months to plan, but I haven’t wasted any time crossing off the important to-dos. Two weeks into being engaged and I already have a venue, date, photographer, videographer, and invitations pretty much all secured. So far, wedding planning has been really fun and not stressful in the least. Who would have thought?!
The last two weeks have been so special… I’m amazed by the legitimate joy and excitement we’ve received from all of our family and friends. I wish I could bottle this feeling. And as a person who works in the wedding industry, I’m super excited to be able to finally join in on the joys and woes of wedding planning that I post about so often. Be sure to check back in periodically as I’ll be posting regular updates about the process and my experience. In the meantime, I’ll be avoiding carbs like the plague until October 28th, 2017. 🙂
We want to know… what surprised you about being engaged and planning your wedding? What are some things that you opted out of on your big day?