Well looks like that moment has come. You are the chosen one. Your best friend, sister, cousin, roommate from college turned to you and said “Will you be my maid of honor/best man?”
You of course said, “Yes!!”, as baby tears welled in your eyes and you bro hugged it out.
Once the excitement and clinking of glasses subsides you may begin to think to yourself – holy cow I have no idea what I’m supposed to do now. Follow these general rules and you will be the best best man or maid of honor this wedding party has ever seen!
1. Planning the Pre-Parties
One of the most important people in your life is tying the knot. This means it is time to party! Talk to the bride/groom and ask them how they imagine partying.
Vegas may be a cringe worthy experience they hope to avoid, and a joint wedding shower may be what they have in mind. The pre-parties can include everything from the engagement party to the bridal shower, and of course the bachelor/bachelorette parties. You may discover that the parents are taking care of the engagement party, leaving you to plan the bachelorette extravaganza. Talk it out. Live it up. This is (hopefully) the first and last time your best friend ties the knot.
2. Keep Your Cool
A bride and groom will normally have a checklist about a mile long they are trying to tackle on a daily basis. Literally everyone and their mom asks about the wedding from the time of engagement right up to the day of the ceremony. It can become exhausting and frustrating.
As MOH or BM your job is to be a sounding board, a person who offers a hand, someone who will take on the booking of hotel rooms for the wedding party, while the bride and groom negotiate for 2 months with the caterer.